The “F*** It” Mentality

Sometimes you just have to say, “F*** it.” I don’t think anything in life is more important than being happy. I always tell people: “You only get to live once. When it’s over, there’s no reset button, no starting over. So you might as well live it happy. As long as you’re not hurting yourself or affecting someone else’s life in a negative way, do whatever makes you happiest.”

This is the kind of mindset everyone should adopt. Stop caring so much about what other people are doing, what they believe, or which political side they lean toward. Who cares? Just because someone follows a different religion, supports another party, or thinks green is prettier than blue doesn’t make them a bad person. The only exception is when someone goes out of their way to damage your life or mood—and even then, it might be more about your perception than their intent.

Too many people get upset when others express opinions, even calmly. If someone shares their thoughts without aggression, there’s no reason to let it rattle you. And even if they do speak harshly, you still have a choice: don’t let it bother you. Say “F*** it” in your head and move on. Let their anger sit with them, not you. Be like a duck and let it roll off your back.

People often ask why I’m so calm or how I avoid getting angry. The truth is, things do bother me—but only if they’re serious enough to cause real harm to me or someone I care about. Even when people speak hatefully toward my loved ones, I don’t let it get under my skin. I’ve taught this mindset to my kids, and I can tell you with certainty they’re happier than most people I know because of it.

If you have a friend who constantly brings you stress, you might need new friends. Surround yourself with intelligence, warmth, and peace if you want to find peace yourself. We’re all going to be gone someday. That can’t be changed. What can change is how much joy you find while you’re here.

Learn to say “F*** it,” but say it in your head. Use it for the moments that don’t deserve your energy.

Got lost driving? “F*** it.” Someone running late? “F*** it.” (That’s on them.) Got a parking ticket? “F*** it. ”Boyfriend or girlfriend cheated? “F*** it.” (You didn’t need that person anyway.)

Save your anger, frustration, and tears for the few situations that truly deserve them. I hope this makes sense to some of you. For those it doesn’t—enjoy staying upset.

Think about it. —C. R. Buchanan